"Sure, every man says he wants a smart, funny, talented wife. But a new study finds that subconsciously a man's ego takes a hit whenever his wife succeeds, no matter what the domain."
Men's subconscious self-esteem may be bruised when their spouse or girlfriend excels - even when they are not in direct competition - a new study has found
Researchers found that men were more likely to feel sub-consciously worse about the themselves when their female partner succeeded that when she failed. However, women's self-esteem was not affected by their male partners' successes or failures, according to the study published in the American Psychological Association Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
"It makes sense that a man might feel threatened if is girlfriend out performed him in something they're doing together, such as trying to lose weight," said the study's lead author, Kate Ratliff, of the University of Florida.
"But this research found evidence that men automatically interpret a partner's success as their own failure, even when they're not in direct competition," Ratliff said.
The researchers studied 896 heterosexual Americans and Dutch in five experiments. When comparing the result, the researchers found it didn't matter if the achievements of failures were social, intellectual or related to participants' own successes or failures - men felt worse about themselves when their partner succeeded than when she failed.
Ladies, don’t try to outdo your partner – it makes them feel rotten about themselves.
Rather
than bask in your well-earned glory following a particular success,
deep down a man’s self-esteem is likely to be taking a bruising.
Whether
the achievement is social or intellectual, men subconsciously feel far
worse about themselves when a wife or girlfriend succeeds than when she
fails, according to a study
‘But this research found evidence
that men automatically interpret a partner’s success as their own
failure, even when they’re not in direct competition.’
The researchers studied 896 people in five experiments.
In
one experiment, 32 couples from the University of Virginia were given
what was described as a ‘test of problem solving and social
intelligence’ and then told that their partner scored either in the top
or bottom 12 per cent of all university students.
Hearing that their partner scored
high or low on the test did not affect what the researchers called
participants’ explicit self-esteem - how they said they felt. Participants
were also given a test to determine how they felt subconsciously about
their partners’ performance, which the researchers called implicit
self-esteem. In this test, a computer tracked how quickly people associate good and bad words with themselves.
For example, participants with high
implicit self-esteem who see the word ‘me’ on a computer screen are more
likely to associate it with words such as ‘excellent’ or ‘good’ rather
than ‘bad’ or ‘dreadful’.
Men are more likely to feel subconsciously worse about themselves when their female partner succeeds than when she fails Men who believed that their
partner scored in the top 12 per cent demonstrated significantly lower
implicit self-esteem than men who believed their partner scored in the
bottom 12 per cent.
Participants did not receive information about their own performance. Findings were similar in two more studies conducted in the Netherlands. The
Netherlands boasts one of the smallest gender gaps in labour, education
and politics, according to the United Nations’ Gender Equality Index.
However,
like American men, Dutch men who thought about their partner’s success
subconsciously felt worse about themselves than men who thought about
their partner’s failure, according to both studies.
In
the final two experiments, conducted online, 657 U.S. participants were
asked to think about a time when their partner had succeeded or failed.
For example, some
participants were asked to think about their partner’s social success or
failure, such as being a charming host at a party, or a more
intellectual achievement or failure.
In
one study, participants were told to think of a time when their partner
succeeded or failed at something at which they had succeeded or failed.
When comparing all
the results, the researchers found that it didn’t matter if the
achievements or failures were social, intellectual or related to
participants’ own successes or failures - men subconsciously still felt
worse about themselves when their partner succeeded than when she
failed.
However, men’s
implicit self-esteem took a bigger hit when they thought about a time
when their partner succeeded at something while they had failed.
Researchers also looked at how relationship satisfaction affected self-esteem. Women
in these experiments reported feeling better about their relationship
when they thought about a time their partner succeeded rather than a
time when their partner failed, but men did not.
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