Saturday, 11 May 2013

Wife Swapping

History of Wife Swapping

Today what we called "a swinger lifestyle" was previously known as "wife swapping". This term is use to describe a form of recreational social and sexual intercourse between consenting adults. Swingers commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting with other male/female couples for sex and ongoing intimacy. It is simply being open about you sexual feelings and being adventurous about it.

Wife swapping probably began since the dawn of time. From our history records at museums and in libraries we can find some sort of written documents from the ancient Rome and its' orgies. Those orgies they have was probably what we call today as "swinging parties".

It was first report during World War II (1941-1944) that wife swapping activity was known, especially among the US air force pilots. Those men were wealthy enough to move their wives close to the base. In those days nobody knew will there be a tomorrow and the fact that their fatality rate was extremely high against any other branch of service led to and unusual social scene where non-monogamy between these pilots' wives and other pilots became satisfactory. Before military actions they would organize parties with their colleagues and their wives to say good bye. In these parties colleagues will promise if anything happens to them that they will take care of their families, including the sexual needs of their wives. These arrangements persisted near the air force bases throughout World War II and well into the Korean War. By the time the Korean War has ended, these wife swapping groups had spread from bases to the nearby suburbs. By then there were also "key clubs". This is where husbands reportedly tossed their house keys into the pile in the center of the room where they were to draw at random by their wives. The owner of a selected key was the sexual partner for that evening.

It was until not until the early 1950's that the media first reported these activities in the US and in the military and named it "wife swapping". The very first public decision of wife swapping was published in a magazine in the late 1957. This magazine was published in New York. It was an article issue of men's magazine called "Mr.". The magazine carried a short article with "semi-nude photos of bosomy female models" and this is when the team wife swapping emerged. The editor of "Mr." claimed it was an article that sparked off the epidemic of much similar articles across other magazines. "Mr." followed up with the original article with a correspondence section. By surprise many unforeseen aspects of the phenomenon emerged from reader's responses. The included such information of sex clubs especially devoted to trios, foursomes, or even large groups. It did not take long for "Mr." to see the opportunity to carry advertisements from people trying to contact other couples with a view to wife swapping.

Over the next couple of years, a large variety of national and local magazines were catering to those in needs of wife swapping. During that time the prime way to meet other wife swappers was through personal ads. These publication offered column after column of such ads. Many of these ads had illustration nude and revealing photos of couples and hopeful singles. 

Rule of Wife Swapping

Wife swapping has no set rules. It is entirely up to you and your partner to decide the boundaries and limitations. Being in wife swapping, couples need not to be married. They should at least have some history of being together and familiar with each others' needs and emotions. Here are some general rules if you are considering entering into wife swapping:
  • Good Communication - This is very critical due to the fact that you and your partner should be able to discuss each other needs and wants in a manner that it is the most comfortable with. If you are not happy about a situation you and your partner should be clear about it and why.
  • Confidence and Comfort - Sex is a very powerful part of human experience and is where pleasure is often found. Wife swapping can only be reached if you and your partner have each others' confidence and comfort first. It might be worth thinking about whether there are any potential situations that you feel you would be more or less comfortable in and then discuss these with your partner.
  • Trust, Sensitivity and Respect - Together as couple, trust and respect of each others view is very important especially if you are going to enter into wife swapping. Realistically, there will always be another partner, another personal ad, another dance, or another convention, but there may not be another chance to save an exploration into wife swapping if one of the partners becomes overwhelmed with it and forgets to treat his or her primary partner with sensitively and respect.
The general rule of thumb is that wife swapping works best only when couples view wife swapping as an enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than to replace a fail one. Wife swapping is only a primarily social event. The normal social customs of greeting people and initiating a conversation are really not that different than at any other social interaction. The key social behaviors that tend to be appreciated among the wife swapping community are responsibility, friendliness, flirtatiousness, open-mindedness, and most importantly stability with regards to one's primary relationship. The pros and cons of whether or not you and your mate are compatible with the swinging lifestyle or even interested in it are many. Whatever you do, be sure that both of you are committed to it before ever trying it out

View on Wife Swapping

In the 60's sex was wide open for youths between the age 15 thru to 25. Sex was something fun, easy and could be experimented with. A percentage older generations over their 40's had a problem in that as they were supposed to set a good example of what sex really meant. Sex was only for married couples. When couples got married they were supposed to settle down and be sensible and raise a family, but some folks in that generation decided that sex was fun and can be experimented with other married couples. So they started to participate in wife swapping. Wife swapping began with a little touching and kissing, and later advanced to petting and sex. Through to the end of the 60's and early 70's wife swapping was for one or two couples having sex between that small groups. Later the groups grew in size. Younger couples in their 30's also began to enter the wife swapping scene. Wife swapping soon changes rapidly into threesomes and then singles with married couples. As social attitudes changed and grew gays, lesbian and bi-sexual couples emerged. In the late 80's and throughout the 90's wife swapping clubs and organizations sprang out everywhere. Men and women began to like the swapping scene and term swapping was soon replaced by "Swinging". 

You can view human like any other humans on this planet. They are not put together to be in a monogamous relationship. Humans are given the power of sex primarily for the multiplication of the human species. In today's society we have more needs for delayed in marriage and have children. We no longer need to pass the family name on. Hence, sex does not equate to have children and starting up a family. Sex is view as a way to explore our sexuality and our needs of satisfaction. Due to the changes in the society's views men and women have decided to break this tradition and to satisfy themselves sexually. We as human are poly-sexual and this is how wife swapping came about.

It is said the wife swapping is not for everyone. This may be very true because some of us are unable to go beyond our emotions and needs of our sexual preferences. They cannot deny their own sexual preferences as it is again the God. Lastly, we come to jealousy. Jealousy is not an emotion it is a fear that we experience. We all have some sort of fear. They may include fear of inadequacy, fear of loosing and fear of not getting their shares and possession.

Wife swapping is forever growing. In this aspect, we are also growing in a way of learning about ourselves and others. We have all learnt wife swapping requires a open mind, good communications which will promote good family relationship as well as the ability to work and get along with others.

Wife Swapping Christian

Under a religious point of view wife swapping is not alright. It is a sin. Wife swapping is a distorted practice where married couples get together and exchange wives with whom to go and have a sexual relationship with. The bible says that marriage should be honored by both parties meaning to remain faithful to each other at all times as per the oath you both have taken on you wedding day. It is also said that the marriage bed should be kept pure for the God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral (Heb 13:4). In the scripture it does not say what husbands and wives are or are not allowed to do sexually. It does say that husbands and wives are not to "Do not leave without each others except by mutual consent and for a time (1 Cor 7:5a). This phase may have laid down the principle for sexual relations among marry couples. Whatever needs to be done or to do should require mutual agreed. No one should be persuaded or force into doing something they are uncomfortable or against there will. If a marry couples have both agree to try something new such as a new sexual position or oral sex and etc. then the bible does not prohibit you from doing such things.

The Bible does not allow the practice of wife swapping. Wife swapping is considered as adultery. This is considered sinful and forbidden in the scripture. This is regardless whether your partner approves or allows it. All pornography that is appealing to the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes are also prohibited and condemned by the God.

Wife Swapping Clubs

Wife swapping clubs first started as informal gatherings at members' homes or at the homes of the leaders of the clubs. These clubs were informal in nature and membership was generally through recommendations of other members.

The first to be open wife swapping clubs was in California in the 1960's. This club was open to the public who want to become members. The club held regular wife swapping parties for its members to go along with other social and political activities. The trend was soon to follow by Canada also open its' first wife swapping club in Toronto. Up to now the club has many members and it is still very popular with the activities they hold.

The wife swapping clubs are only a meeting place for members. The activities of the swapping clubs were and still generally a dancing club. Swapping was a private matter and any arrangements and engagements were strictly up to the member couples attending the dances. Usually, sexual activities are held privately at member's homes or rented motel/hotel rooms.

Although wife swapping clubs and magazines had helped with promoting the growth, the real strength behind wife swapping are among the individual men and women who adopted wife swapping as part of their lifestyle.

Today wife swapping clubs are all over the world. The can be found in most parts of United States, populous areas of Canada, parts of England, France, Germany and Japan. The actual numbers of wife swapping couples and individuals are not known, but all we know it is substantial and growing fast. Wife swapping is not as conservative as it used to be. These day is has become more open through media reports, magazines, newspaper and TV programs. The internet is also fast growing and really popular for wife swapping couples and individuals to met one another. The internet has allows wife swapping couples and individuals to place personal ads for instant communication. Wife swapping has come a long way since World War II. Today more and more new couples and individual have join in wife swapping to start to explore their sexuality and sensuality in new ways.

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